We live in a DIY culture. DIY, as you probably know, stands for Do It Yourself.
We see our DIY orientation with the self-help movement. Countless speakers and authors seek to convince us that, “I’m ok!” and “You’re ok!” and “I’m the answer to my problems!” and “You can be the best you and start living your best life!” Let’s say you wanted to fix your problems yourself, guess how many self-help books you could purchase? 45,000! After reading 45,000 books, your self should be able to really help your self!
One time I was in Colorado Springs. I woke up early and walked across the street from my hotel to a McDonalds to get some breakfast. Outside I met a homeless man named Lenny. Lenny asked for money. I gave him a bit, and asked Lenny a few questions. Lenny told me he had been homeless in the cold Colorado mountains for eight years. I asked, “What is the hardest part about being homeless?” He answered immediately. “Man, the hardest part is asking for help.” We talked for awhile longer, and finally I asked one last question, “If it’s so hard to ask for help, what made you finally ask for help?” He said, “Well, I had no other choice. I had no other choice, and so I asked for help.”
In our DIY culture, I don’t think Lenny is alone; the hardest part for most of us is asking for help. And that really is a problem because if you do it yourself, God’s not doing it. Relying on me means I’m not relying on God.
We need to go from DIY to DIWG - Do It With God.
Going from DIY to DIWG is hard. In fact, I think a lot of us won’t do it unless we feel like we have no other choice. So, let me be clear: We have no other choice.
Why? Because DIY from a spiritual sense is a dead end. The Bible makes it clear that my problem is with me. If I’m the problem than I’m probably not the solution. If I rely on me, I’ll always struggle with the same problems and never become what I need to be. Not only for me, but for my family and friends and all the people who rely on me.
We need to go from DIY to DIWG.
And I don’t mean DIWG like, “I’m gonna do it myself, but I’ll throw up a token prayer before I do.” It’s not a, ‘tell God he’s welcome to sit in the passenger seat as I drive us where I want to go, the way I want to get there.’ No. it’s an, ‘invite God to take the steering wheel, I sit in the passenger seat and see what God needs me to do in the journey he’s leading me on.’
I don’t think going from DIY to DIWG is easy for anyone, but I suspect it’s most challenging for guys. I don’t want to reinforce gender stereotypes but I have found that men seem to have a harder time asking for help (or asking for directions, but that’s a topic for another day). Guys need help with this, and that’s why I’m so excited about my friend Kent Evans’ new book, Wise Guys.
Kent is a man who is man enough to admit he’s not man enough. He’s learned to live a DIWG life, and in his new book, Wise Guys, he’s sharing with guys how they can do the same. If you’re a dude who wants to go from DIY to DIWG, go check it out.
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